Surviving #6: The Waiting; The In-Between.

To us, waiting is wasting. To God, waiting is working.” – Louie Giglio

As I’m sitting here, listening to the calmness of the waves waiting to greet the shore, and admiring the glistening waters, a word came to mind – “waiting“.

Waiting for time to pass, waiting for the clouds to clear, waiting for the wave to crash.

Waiting.

I am waiting for something that I foresee happening, but what if it doesn’t?

What if I am wasting my time waiting for something I am unsure of, yet think I’m sure of? What if what I perceive to be my next isn’t what God set out for me?

Faith and hope are words that come to mind.

Do we really have any concrete idea of where we are headed? How do we get there from where we are right now?

Is our next better than where we are? Or worse?

What’s your next? What’s your in-between?

How do you transition from one thing – perhaps the very best moment/day, or the very worst – to the other side of it?

The in-between time. One of the hardest, and yet, one of the most formative seasons we frequent. While we can’t wait for the next event, or wish the hard times away, the in-between time is where we actually do our best work, or at least, have the potential to.

Letting go of what has been, or at least moving with the passing of time from an event, whether it was good or bad, is a skill we spend our lives working on (or not). It’s the space in-between the big moments that are hard to navigate.

It’s tempting to want to speed time up, slow it down, rush through it, sleep through it, numb through it… and get to the other side. But we risk losing the lessons and stories the in-between has for us.

So just wait. Have a seat. Take a breath.

Don’t think of the ‘waiting’ as a passive waiting; it’s more of an active patience. I’m talking about Presence. You are where you are, so be there. All there.

God is at work in the in- between, weaving His incredible story through your life the way only He can, and only if we choose to be patient with Him in it.

Stay blessed.

Kyle 🙂

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Surviving #5: Liminal Space (Space of Waiting)


Trust.

Wait.

Patiently.

Are these not some of the most troubling words in the English language? Haha!

I’ve used all three of them, and in very comforting sentences. “Trust God”, “wait for his timing” and “patience is a fruit of the spirit.”

I think we’ve grown so familiar with these words, while their meanings have become like a distant memory.

When the rubber of life hits the hard road of reality, trust, wait and patience are three words that bring little comfort.

As we enter the Christmas season, the season of giving, the season of Jesus Christ.. We tend to find ourselves in the busy, overcrowded malls more often than normal (sometimes too much).. concerning ourselves with the thought of whether or not we bought that person (or those people) the perfect gift. We spend hours in search of it, but sometimes we don’t really seem to find it.

We become impatient, anxious.. we lose hope.

(Trust. Wait. Patiently.)

“But hope means that we must trust and wait for what is still unseen. For why would we need to hope for something we already have? So because our hope is set on what is yet to be seen, we patiently keep on waiting for its fulfillment. Rom 8:24-25 (TPT)”

There is a name for this Space of Waiting.

Liminal” Space. (Latin word for “threshold”)

A Liminal Space is the time between the ‘what was’ and the ‘next.’ It is a place of transition, waiting, and not knowing.”

It is when you are in between your old comfort zone and any possible new answer”

It is no fun.

IF YOU ARE NOT trained in how to hold anxiety, how to live with ambiguity, got to entrust and wait.. you will run.. or more likely you will “explain.” Not necessarily a true explanation, but any explanation is better than scary Liminal Space. Anything to flee from this terrible “cloud of unknowing.”

Maybe the way forward is not finding THE ANSWER right now, but learning to live without an answer, or rather, living towards one. One that may take more than my lifetime to find.

We need to find our way back to the true meaning of trust, wait, patience.

A life of hope.

Surviving #4: Life is a journey (to Summer)


Journey

What does ‘journey’ mean to you?

The word “journey” has had a resurgence of late. So much so, that it’s almost a cliché.

It’s a journey.

Life is a journey.

Journey.

However, I can’t think of another word that best describes how we move through life.

Life moves forward at a steady pace. We don’t fly instantly from event to event. We don’t staccato around the pivotal moments of our lives, transitioning immediately from one height to the next. It took me 22 years to turn 22 – I couldn’t speed it up, nor slow it down. We can’t instantaneously go from winter to summer.

We have to journey through spring before we can meet the warm sun of the summer months.

There are fewer instantaneous moments in life than we may thing.. and much more “journeying” moments – walking, moving, traveling, you name it..

Rhythm.

“That is way we never give up. Though our bodies are dying, our spirits are being renewed every day.”

2 Corinthians 4:16 (NLT)

This verse emphasizes that:

We ARE renewed in an instant, and at the same time, we are BEING renewed as we go. Work in progress.

Salvation can be seen as an instantaneous transaction. Absolutely.

I put my hand up in church when I was eight and said “Yes” to Jesus, said the sinner’s prayer and invited Christ into my heart.

But then, I did it again when I was 14.

And again when I was 16. That one was a big one.

It turns out that the more transformational mechanisms in my life have been during the journey, more than a moment in church with my hand in the air.

My inner life is being renewed day by day, moment by moment, awareness by awareness. I’m journeying with it. The cross has done something FOR me, but it’s also DOING something IN me.

Day by day, along the way.

Surviving #3: The Spring Season


“I thought it was still winter.

It was cold and raining.

It felt like a winter, but what I didn’t know was that it was spring. I was experiencing spring rain.

As a result growth was taking place in my life.

You might think you’re in a winter season because things still look the same, but there is a growth taking place and soon you’ll see the flower in you will bud.”

– Gabrielle Ownhouse


In my previous post, I spoke about the winter season. One would expect to start with summer, right?

Most of us will want the sunshine before the rain, the happiness instead of the pain, but it is important to understand why we receive the rainy, gloomy days, and why everything seems so green and alive after them. Or have you not noticed?

There is a reason for every season.

Especially considering the perfect order of the seasons.

There is no rainbow after sunshine, after all.

We have to understand why we are rewarded with a rainbow after heavy rain.. why we are promised perfect sunshine after the storm.. why we are naturally brought into healing after the pain.

I believe it’s God’s way of assuring us.

He assures us that dawn comes after night, and spring after winter.

My challenge for you is to embrace the change, find happiness in the rainy days – not just in the sunshine, and embrace the season of growth in your life.

And wherever life plants you,

Bloom with grace.

Surviving #2: The Winter Season

“Don’t ever discount the wonder of your tears. They can be healing waters and a stream of joy. Sometimes they are the best words the heart can speak.”

– The Shack | William P. Young

It’s been a rainy day at work today, so I decided to indulge myself in a cup of coffee (probably my 3rd one today), and a good read – The Shack by William P. Young.

What an exceptional piece of writing it is.

I felt that this book is relative to the world we live in today in the sense where pain is questioned and all we seek is the sunshine and pleasant days.

We forget that there is beauty in the rain, and that there is beauty in the winter season we are in.

Just like the workings of nature, there is a season for growth and a season of rest and rejuvenation.

Maybe you’re in a “fallow” season of rest and rejuvenation. Or perhaps you’re in a peak season, making things happen and being super productive. Either way, submit to the seasons. Know that whatever one you’re in will pass, and a new season will come.

One season isn’t better than another. Rest is just as important as productivity.

There is nothing in nature that blooms all year long. Don’t expect yourself to, either.

Surviving #1: Stepping out of comfort.

“If you want something different, you have to stop accepting what you’re used to.” – Samantha King Holmes

Comfort zones…

All of us have our comfort zones. Some of us surround ourselves with them.
Some of us live in them. Some of us visit them. And some of us have learned to ignore them. Will you step out of your comfort zone?

New season, new challenges, uncharted territory. 

We all want something new, even that new PlayStation 4 / X-Box game we bought awhile ago isn’t giving us that tingle in our bones anymore. We are all born with the desire for NEW.

Getting used to something does imply growth and understanding in your life, but the the feeling of a new experience.. a new destination.. a new challenge.. that is where our excitement lies.

You don’t need some spontaneous form of motivation to get you started, just do it.

Grab hold of every opportunity you have in order to break free from your comfort zone in all aspects of your life.

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”